Recovery and support
If You Are Affected by Violence
Engaging with material about violence can sometimes bring up difficult memories,
emotions, or physical responses – especially for those who have already experienced harm,
threat, or loss.
If completing the questionnaires or reading this material has made things feel
overwhelming, unsettled, or unsafe, it is important to pause and prioritise care.
Strength is not ignoring impact.
Composure includes knowing when support is needed.
Immediate Safety
If you are in immediate danger, or feel that you might act in a way that could harm yourself
or others:
Contact your local emergency services now.
Emergency responders exist for moments when capacity is exceeded. Using them is an act
of responsibility, not failure.
Medical and Psychological Support
If you are experiencing ongoing distress, anxiety, sleep disruption, intrusive thoughts, or
changes in mood or behaviour following violence – recent or past – consider speaking with:
- Your family doctor (GP)
They can assess both physical and psychological effects, offer initial support, and
refer you to appropriate specialist services if needed. - A qualified mental health professional
Especially one experienced in trauma-informed care.
Violence affects the nervous system, not just the mind. Support helps restore regulation,
not erase strength.
Victim Support Services
Most countries provide free, confidential victim support services for those affected by
violence, whether directly or indirectly.
These services can offer:
- Emotional support
- Practical guidance
- Advocacy and signposting
- Support for family members and close others
If you are unsure where to start, search for “Victim Support” followed by your country or
region.
Examples include: - National victim support charities
- Crime victim helplines
- Domestic violence and assault support services
You do not need to minimise your experience to qualify for support.
Violence rarely affects only one person.
For Family Members and Close Others
If someone close to you has been harmed, threatened, or involved in a violent incident, you
may notice changes in them – or in yourself. Support is available for partners, family
members, and friends, not just direct victims.
Seeking guidance early can prevent isolation and long-term strain.
A Note on Recovery
Recovery is not about “getting over it.”
It is about regaining agency, coherence, and trust in yourself.
The Recovery & Aftermath section of The Reality Gap book is built on this understanding:
that preparedness includes knowing how to return to equilibrium, meaning, and values after
disruption.
If you need support now, reach for it.
Training continues later.